Power Through Projections

Hi, Eric Schleien here, I am writing this book called Principles of Power largely inspired from a dear friend and mentor of mine John King. I’m going to share an idea from there in a slightly moderated way, because I find it incredibly ubiquitous and damaging. The damage may just be caused by a misidentification.

 

People often project personal problems in an impersonal way

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Sometimes we interact with someone and they exhibit a response that seems out of place. Or they will accuse you of something that doesn’t seem to be present or true. This can lead to some puzzling conclusions or emotions.

 

Now, granted, there are times when you may not be sensitive to something that the other person is pointing out and it’s true. But if you feel like generally you have an elevated degree of common sense – which I’m assuming you do because are reading a post of how to live better now – then you may not be the problem.

 

People get stuck in their head

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When people struggle with their own problems that are going on in their heads often they will project it onto the world around them. And if you are in the line of fire you may get hit with some unsettled inner problems. We then may think that we did something wrong or need to change something we are doing. Not necessarily so. We may just need to change our perspective of the problem. If we can get out of our heads and in touch with where the other person is coming from, we may find that the whole ‘issue’ is really their own.

 

Projecting their problems onto you need not be responded to apologetically. Often giving them the perspective they want will most efficiently diffuse the discomfort. It won’t necessarily open up the ability for mediation or resolve, but it will answer the issue on your end. Mediation depends on the willingness of both parties to recognize faults they may have expressed, in this type of case it’s rare.

 

We see the world from the inside out

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The funny thing about this idea is that it’s totally experiential. When we become sensitive to a problem we have all of a sudden we see everyone else who has it. Or even worse we’ll attribute it to people that just exhibit some signs of it, without actually having it.

 

We see our whole world from our personal experience. So when we become cognizant of a negative pattern we tend to think that it’s a shared experience, which may or may not be the case. And then we start chalking up all problems to our own issues.

 

Understand their problems and yours

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So learning about hopefully will help in two ways. Firstly when you are on the receiving end of a projection that someone can’t get over, you can understand how best to relate to the situation knowing it’s not your fault. Second, you can learn better how to not project your own problems onto the world around you.

 

The more you think about this concept the more you’ll find the truth of the matter. People everywhere have unresolved pain they have not dealt with. That will lead to projections and carryover.

 

So always try to take into account when you are being accused the person just may not have dealt with their own issues yet. And hopefully it may help you interact with people while you are dealing with your own issues.

Medical Marijuana for the Suffering

Marijuana still has a stigma that surrounds it, deeming it worse than alcohol. Let’s try to address that here. Now the stigma is not baseless for sure but it is within the control of the individual using it. And so it should be up to the individual to choose whether or not and how a person should relate to it.

 

Alcohol, which people are given the liberty to choose to have is found near many activities and moods that lead to or enhance abusive behavior. Not to say that alcohol itself is bad, of course it isn’t, but marijuana is often compared to it. There have been no studies done that can confirm direct links from marijuana to any types of such behaviors. 

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In fact, marijuana has been used successfully for medical purposes. I sponsored a bill in fact that broadened the range of qualifying medical conditions that can be included in the license to receive marijuana. I want to make the medical relief for people suffering more readily available. 

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That’s just a small piece of the equation though. I think marijuana should be legalized entirely. All of these drugs are not inherently bad, but merely tools. They are as bad as the person utilizing them, but it is that way with cars as well and they are certainly legal.

 

Maybe the marketing that surrounds marijuana should be one more of empowerment on the positive capacity that it brings to the table. Advertising that could help people relate to it in a more healthy way. I think the same is done for alcohol, how alcohol is related with having a good time, and fun in an appropriate way, well most of the time.

Misuse of Taxpayer’s Money

People are getting their hands on marijuana anyway. And the amount of money that is being invested into the time spent getting people in trouble for it alone, could be better utilized. It’s coming out of the taxpayer’s dollars and it’s the taxpayers who are getting their hands on it. I have yet to come across a compelling argument that criminalizes marijuana at its core.

Education on Marijuana

I believe that all recreational activities that aren’t harmful to oneself or to others should not be considered criminal. We are a part of an incredible nation founded on freedom, so let’s grant the citizens exactly that. I believe maybe we should teach more about marijuana so people can make more educated decisions about it. For instance what implications there are, or health benefits and precautionary advice. So people can choose clearly about what they are doing, but to take that away from them seems far more criminal.

 

I’m not particularly into marijuana, just given the circumstance I understand the stigma that surrounds it, but it’s not entirely fair. The same stigmas could exist for other drugs that don’t, it’s a matter of the individual. Not even in just from a recreational standpoint, but there are countless diseases that it provides relief for. Why should a disease have to be justified for someone to find some relief?